Remember, you don’t have to control your thoughts.
You just have to make sure that your thoughts don’t control you.
Mr. Salam is in a very bad mood. There’s home full of guests, Mr. Salam has not visited anyone’s house or invited anyone since the beginning of Corona. Every time someone comes into the house from outside, or the groceries bought from the market, he takes them inside one by one after cleaning them with disinfectant spray. But today, about half a dozen in-laws have come to give a ‘surprise’ on the occasion of his wife’s birthday.
His wife Selina Begum also seems quite happy about it. Mr. Salam does not understand, does she not have the slightest sense? In addition, as soon as he entered the house, his brother-in-law shouted “Dulabhaiee” and hugged him once. He immediately entered the bathroom and took a shower. Now a little while ago his eldest daughter Lina came to call him. Everyone will cut Cake now. The children have tuned just like their mothers. No sense at all.
“Dad, aren’t you coming yet?”
Mr. Salam’s thoughts were interrupted. Without saying anything, he looked at his daughter silently. Lina said again,
– “What happened, dad?”
– “Can’t I be spared?”
– “What do you mean? Shall I cut mom’s birthday cake without you? “
– “Cutting cakes is the job of these kids. You are a kid, you have to be there. ”
Lina stared hard. Said in a hard voice,
– “Just why are you lying dad? I know why you don’t want to come. And I think you’re a sick man. You should see a doctor. ”
– “You mean you should see a doctor? What happened to me! ”
Mr. Salam is surprised.
– Should see a doctor means should see a psychiatrist. You haven’t been to anyone’s house for the last 6 months. Even if someone comes in our home, you stay in your own room. You are shocked when someone tries to enter your house from outside! Do these seem normal to you? We all have tension with Corona, father. But isn’t that an exaggeration of what you’re doing?
Mr. Salam stared blankly. Lina said with a sigh,
“Dad, you have OCD. I have a girlfriend. He has this disease. And whatever he does, so do you. I’ll show you a psychiatrist, Dad. “
At that time a call came from someone from the party in the other room. Lina left.
After Lina left, Mr. Salam sat quietly. What did the girl say to him? He is not crazy! He just wants to keep everyone safe from Corona, he wants to keep himself safe. Is it something bad? Why is everyone so upset about it? Mr. Salam became incredibly upset.
Does Mr. Salam really have OCD? Let’s try to find out. But to know this answer, we must first know what OCD is.
OCD-Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
A complete analysis of the English word OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. That is, there are two parts – 1. Obsession 2. Compulsion
We use the word obsession in our daily lives. For example, obsession with lover, obsession with work, obsession with beauty. That is to be completely engrossed in a subject. In OCD, obsession means “recurrent and persistent thoughts, urges or images”. That is to say, an OCD patient has a recurring thought, whether it is a completely unwanted or unreasonable thought, the patient can understand and because he understands it on his own, he wants to stop this unwanted thought, but he seldom succeeds. As a result, the patient suffers severe mental distress.
To avoid the emotional distress caused by the obsession, the patient then engages himself in another activity which we call “compulsion” or “compulsive behavior.” In some cases, avoidant behavior instead of compulsion.
The matter can be easily understood by giving an example. For example, suppose a patient is obsessed with dirt. He is thinking all the time in his head, if his his hands are getting dirty or his body is getting dirty. This is his obsession. We call this obsession “obsessional thought about dirt and contamination“.
Although the patient realizes that this thought is absolutely absurd, there is no dirt on his hands or body, he still cannot get rid of this thought from his head. As a result, he washed his hands to avoid such thoughts, thinking that once he washes his hands, he no longer has to worry, but the reality is that no matter how much he washes his hands, the thought of dirt comes to him again and again. Thus he washes his hands repeatedly. This hand washing here is his compulsion.
I have used obsessional thought here as an example, any picture or persecution that can also come as an obsession, as said that at the beginning.
In the case of a picture, suppose that an unwanted picture appears in front of the patient’s eyes, such as a very scary or obscene picture (obsession) and to drive away this picture he then starts reciting more and more prayers (compulsion).
Similarly, in case of persecution or impulse, he wants to do something in a hurry. For instance, the person may want to cut himself when he sees a knife or jump off the roof. And to avoid this urge, the patient may at some point stop going to the kitchen or the roof (avoidant behavior).
Who are affected?
OCD usually begins at a young age, usually before the age of twenty. Girls have a slightly higher rate than boys. Children can also have OCD.
Why does it happen?
Nothing very specific can be blamed for causing OCD. However, studies have shown that there is a circuit in the brain called the OCD circuit, if the circuit is noisy or if someone in the family has a history of the disease.
Symptoms of OCD:
OCD is a mental illness. Since different people think differently, the symptoms of OCD also vary in the way people think. For example, in the case of children, the thought of harming their parents or someone close to them, sexual obsession during adolescence and in the case of adults, obsession with dirt, religion or frequent checking is more common.
Again, OCD varies according to race, religion and environment. For example, most of the people in our country are religious So ‘religious obsession’ as a component of obsessive thought is much more common in our country than in the West. For example, repeating ablutions when performing ablutions, or washing anything other than ablutions at least three times (since we do each step three times while performing ablutions, the patient has unwanted thoughts in his head that nothing is clear without washing three times), etc.
Some more examples of obsessive thoughts-
Pathological doubts: Repeatedly checking for a task that may not have been done properly (as a result of repeatedly checking the lock, repeatedly checking whether the stove has been turned off).
Somatic Obsessions: Unwanted thoughts about illness or feeling that any part of one’s body is defective.
Aggressive Obsessions: When you see a sharp object (knife, scissors) you want to hurt yourself or someone else, suddenly say something indecent in front of a crowd.
Sexual Obsessions: Perverted sexual thoughts or sexual relation desire with whom it cannot be established (father, mother, brother, sister).
Hoarding: The tendency to store unnecessary things.
Need for symmetry: The tendency to keep anything (books, furniture) on the same table all the time and to be very uncomfortable if it is slightly manipulated.
Thousands of such examples of obsession can be given, since human thought has no definite boundaries. In that case, one thing to keep in mind – “Unwanted thoughts come to mind again and again against one’s own will and it is very painful for the person” – this is the obsession.
OCD is quite difficult to detect in children. Because children can’t explain their obsession to anyone, they can’t understand themselves. They often interpret this strange experience as “He told me to do it, to say it.” In other words, the children do not understand that this is his own thought. And this “he” is often taken by the parents as a demon-possessed and treated as a result of which the child does not get better and instead he gets worse day by day.
One more thing to keep in mind, we are all a little squeamish. So are we all OCD patients? Of course not. As long as your nauseous nature does not cause you emotional pain, you will not have any disease.
The case of Mr. Salam
There are many stories about OCD, this time let’s go back to Mr. Salam’s story. What really happened to Mr. Salam? Is he really suffering from OCD?
This question is quite difficult to answer at the moment. Mr. Salam may or may not have OCD. Again, it may be OCD, may be OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder). Again, it may be that this nature of his does not fall into any disease, he is just a person of a picky nature.
Recent studies have shown that Covid-19 increases the risk of OCD in many people, including those who already have OCD.
However, in order to know the correct diagnosis, Mr. Salam has to go to a psychiatrist. We cannot tell the cause of chest pain without chest stethoscope, ECG and other diagnosis. Likewise, mental problems cannot be understood without sitting at home or posting on Facebook. For this you have to seek the help of an expert.
Remember, you don’t have to control your thoughts, you just have to make sure that your thoughts don’t control you.